Standing Tall and ABCs
UPDATE - Laurel is now saying all 26 letters of the alphabet without skipping any! For awhile she has been saying A-H and N-Z, but today (Dec. 2nd) she has been saying them from A to Z. What a big girl!
Christmas Photo Outtakes
This is Greta's "mean face."
Greta: "I will break you."
Braden's escaping and Eli's had enough.
This is Laurel's yes-I'm-smiling-but-I'm-not-happy-about-it face.
"I want that ornament, but dang, this chair is comfy."
Apparently Greta is not a fan of Laurel's version of patty cake.
"We're losing interest in this Mom."
Greta's going in for the windup.
Happy Halloween!
Sittin' and Screamin'
Laurel's language is absolutely exploding. She is finally successfully putting together sentences with more than just nouns! It is awesome to hold long conversations with her with only rarely having to resort to hand gestures and pointing. She is also learning to sing songs.
Both of the girls are at such fun stages and are really interacting with each other. Laurel loves to show off her "baby sisser, Geta May." And Greta thinks Laurel is the most hilarious thing she's ever seen (which may very well be true.)
Sister vs. Sister, Part Deux
Keep Rollin', Rollin', Rollin'
Back to the "Real World"
Getting oh so big!
Adjusting
Pictures from Greta's Birth Day
Greta's Birth Story
Tim and I stayed up until about 1 a.m. early Wednesday morning watching an incredible thunderstorm spread out around our house. Shortly after I fell asleep, I was woken up with my first contraction at 2 a.m. and it was definitely different than anything I'd felt before. It spread into my back and the tops of my legs and was very low in my belly. I got up and went to the computer to use a contraction counter so that I didn't have to wake Tim up and they were very consistently 45 seconds long and 6 minutes apart. The only thing changing was the intensity. By 3:30 I woke Tim up and told him we might want to get packed and ready to go. I called my doula, Angie, shortly after 4 and she agreed that it sounded like this was for real. We decided it would be best to meet at the hospital.
At 4:30 my water broke and almost instantly the intensity and frequency of the contractions went through the roof. I endured a very difficult 30 minute car ride to the hospital (which I later found out must have been my transition phase.) They were coming every 2 to 3 minutes and I really had to moan to deal with them. Poor Laurel was in the backseat, but she was a real trooper. She kept asking, “Mommy, belly hurt?” My parents met us at the hospital and took Laurel home with them. Angie was also waiting for me and helped me get into triage where the nurse exclaimed "I can't find a cervix. Get the doctor here immediately!" I was completely dilated and starting to feel the urge to push.
They rushed me into a room and called in a resident physician from another group who was there for another labor. She and Angie (who is also a certified midwife) were getting a game plan together to deliver me while I stood up beside the bed. (I refused to lie down in the bed because it was just too painful to move anywhere.) I leaned over the bed and tried a few pushing contractions standing up but I could never really find a comfortable place or a way to relax between pushes. At that point I decided the bed looked a whole lot better and I sat down. Luckily our regular OB arrived just in time and jumped into the action.
Tim had gowned and gloved up and the OB was teaching him how to catch the baby! At this point I was scared out of my mind to push for fear of the pain. Angie stood beside my head the whole time and talked to me about why I did, in fact, have to push and push past the point where my mind told my body to quit. I "sat out" several contractions while I worked up the courage to do it and then she said the magical words, "Your baby really needs you to push.” I had heard them mention that there was “light meconium” showing up in my fluid and that the baby’s heart rate was starting to show a little distress so I closed my eyes, drew in my legs to my chest and pushed as hard as I could. Feeling her head move down and then crown was the most intense/painful/incredible feeling. With one more push her head was out I felt relief. The next push to get her shoulders out was just as intense but the fear was gone because I knew I had already done it once.
Tim caught her and put her on my chest. No one had told us that our baby was a girl (and Tim didn’t even think to look) so immediately I moved the cord to see her. I got the privilege of telling everyone that we had a little girl! It was awesome.
I had a 2nd degree tear that went into the muscle so the repair work was fairly uncomfortable but I was finally holding my little girl so it was all alright. The hospital staff was awesome and I held her on my chest for about 2 hours. They did her Apgar checks, her Vitamin K shot and her eye ointment all while I held her and let her start nursing. There was no pressure to bath her or measure her and they just told me to let them know when I wanted to get those things done.
Greta May was born at 6:20 a.m. on Wednesday, May 11, 2011. She weighed 8 pounds and measured 19.5 inches.
From our frantic 5 a.m. arrival until our discharge, we were only in the hospital for 32 hours. Now we are back home and enjoying seeing our two girls get acquainted.


Greta Has Arrived!
Nope, no baby yet
Any Time Now!
Stay in there, stay in there, stay in there...
Well, it seems like I've got another impatient little one on my hands. Angie palpated my abdomen and commented that it seemed like baby was in a ROA position, which means baby is head down with his back on my right side. She said that is typically a position which will translate into a fast and problem-free labor. She then checked the position of baby's head in my pelvis and was a little surprised at how low it already was. With the cervical exam she walked Tim and I through each step to explain exactly what she was looking for and feeling of.
Obviously with Laurel I had some internal exams but I never really knew what they were doing and how they were coming up with X number of centimeters. Angie explained that she first checks the feel of the cervix to see if it is hard or soft to see how much effacement has taken place. The cervix has to be completely soft and pliable before significant dilation can occur. She said my cervix was very "mushy." (I believe that's a technical term.) She then felt to see if actual dilation had started. Sure enough, I'm already at 2 centimeters. She said I wasn't dilated all the way through my cervix but that she didn't want to push too much and risk causing more dilation at this early stage.
After gathering all that information she suggested I continue to take things easy and stay very hydrated. She said my body was definitely in a position where labor could begin at any time and progress fairly quickly. My goal right now is to make until April 23rd. That will put me at 37 weeks and in a much safer place to ensure baby is ready to be out in the real world. Obviously I'd love to make it until May, but I'm not sure how realistic that is at this point.
So everyone say it with me, "Stay in there, stay in there, stay in there..."
Not Ready Yet
However, night before last I was woken up by pretty strong contractions several different times. They were very irregular so I tried not to worry too much. I got up, ate some cereal and read a book for a little while. They calmed down and I went back to bed. Within an hour and a half I was woken up again and this time the contractions were starting low and making their way up to the top of my uterus. They were accompanied by a menstrual-type cramping low in my abdomen. Needless to say this really freaked me out. I watched the clock and tried to time them but they were very irregular and thankfully fizzled out within about 45 minutes.
Last night I slept well and didn't experience any contractions so I'm hoping it was a one-time thing and won't be happening again for at least two more weeks. But to be on the safe side, I'm going to have my doula check to see if I've had an cervical change when I meet with her tomorrow night. That way I can know if these contractions are actually doing anything or just annoying me.
Laurel was born at 37 weeks and while she was completely healthy, I was really hoping to keep this little one in just a bit longer, and I really don't want to have a 35 or 36 weeker. Tim has stepped up with house work and is trying to let me relax in the evenings so we can keep these contractions under control. I'm hoping that will delay things for at least a little while.
Photos!
Lazy Baby
For the past week poor Laurel has had a terrible cold. Well, I guess she's learned a little too much about sharing in Sunday School because she immediately gave it to her father and me. Right about the time I got sick I noticed that the baby stopped moving quite as often or as forcefully. The first day/night of the change I just attributed it to a fluke. Also, I know baby is getting a lot more cramped and doesn't have the room to jump and kick like before. But then after another day and a half of significantly decreased movement I started to get a little concerned. I had drank coffee and got no real reaction, had a banana and nothing, etc. so I called the doctor's office. They told me to come on in.
When I got there they hooked me up to a fetal monitor and did a nonstress test where they monitored the baby's heartbeat for about 20 minutes and had me hit a button every time baby moved. It took forever for the nurse to get a good reading on the heartbeat because he seemed determined to move every time she got the detector in place. After about 10-15 minutes of wrestling (and pulling the belt so tight around my waist I was afraid I would bruise) we finally heard a constant heartbeat. Well, of course, baby finally decided to wake up a little and he started moving around a lot. The heart rate fluctuated between the 120s and 160. The doctor said the monitor usually gets babies good and upset so they'll move and kick a lot. She said the movements and heart rate were perfect, but to feel free to come in if I get worried again. I'm just so relieved that everything seems to be fine.
Going well
Baby is doing well also. I had my 32 week checkup yesterday and baby's heart rate was 130. Both me and the doctor are both guessing it's a boy since the heart rate has consistently been pretty low. I'm feeling really well now that my back and hip aren't bothering me anymore; however, sleep is becoming harder and harder to come by. After lying on one side for about an hour I get sore and wake up and have to roll over. I've also had a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions this pregnancy whereas I never had a single one with Laurel. They aren't painful, but they do make me worry. The doctor said everything was okay as long as I can make them go away by lying down and drinking some water, but if I had more than 4 in an hour and they weren't going away to come over and let them check me.
It's strange, but as time gets closer I feel more calm about delivery rather than nervous. I'm not sure why since I was originally pretty terrified of a natural birth, but I really feel like I'll be in the best hands possible with the support of Tim and my doula, Angie. Also, I've met all four doctors at my new OB-GYN group and I feel really comfortable with all four of them. In fact, when they've looked at my chart, all of them have commented on how wonderful Angie is and how great she is to work with. That gives me a lot of confidence!
Potty Time
Cloth diapering for newborns??
Right now I'm leaning toward using disposables with the new baby until about three months of age simply because I'm unsure if the cost of purchasing a whole set of tiny, newborn cloth diapers will be worth it (and because there is a LOT of newborn poop.) I'll keep you updated on our decision!
That Was So Fun!
"Mommy, 'side me!" = Mommy, sit beside me
"Shebby, mere!" = Shelby, come here (Shelby's our cat)
"Daddy, say 'gin!" = Daddy, say it again
"Nanny, with us?" = Is Nanny coming with us?
"Chuch fend peas." = Can I see my church friends please?
"Stop it Shebby!" = Stop it Shelby (this was her first three word sentence, probably because we say it so much)
Right now she is picking up new words like crazy and her favorite thing to do at night when we're going to sleep is to play the "door game." What I do is say household words and she repeats them. I call it the door game because the easiest way for me to think of words is to mentally walk through my house and name everything I see. She repeats every word, some clearly...and some not so much. (I doubt anyone would recognize "ayter" as refrigerator.)
Another trick she's learned is to count to nine! It's really hard to get her to do it, well, to be honest, you can't get her to do it, but she knows how. Tim and I have heard her and my mom has heard her do it.
Also, we've got magnetic alphabetic letters and it amazes me how often she can pick up a letter and accurately identify it. No one has ever actively tried to teach her either the ABCs or to count, but she's picked them both up on her own.
It's so fun to watch your baby learn and grow!
Big Birthday Celebration
Here's Laurel and her cousin, Eli, opening presents.
Doula on board and more changes
My first thought was to hire a doula. A doula is a woman who serves as a childbirth assistant to the mother (and the father) and offers support during labor, as well as education before and after the birth. I consulted a few different resources in my area to come up with a group of names. I kept hearing one name over and over...Angie. So Tim and I scheduled an appointment to meet with Angie and to see if she might be the doula we were looking for. One thing I specifically like about her is that she is a Certified Midwife, so in addition to her skills as a doula she has delivered many homebirth babies. I have to say, I immediately liked her and felt like this was exactly the woman I needed. She was friendly and upbeat and seemed to understand everything both I and Tim were telling her regarding what we wanted, what our fears were and why we were looking for a doula. I think she especially reassured Tim that things would be fine and that most emergencies she had personally witnessed were actually during medicated births, not otherwise.
On the way home I laughingly told Tim that I would have hired her on the spot, but I knew I needed to sleep on it and give Tim some more time to digest it all. This morning he woke up and told me, "I'm on board, call her and hire her today." Included in her services are chilbirth education classes (she'll be working one-on-one with us to focus on preparing for and coping with labor and delivery since we feel pretty confident about caring for a newborn and breastfeeding). She'll also attend a couple prenatal appointments with me and, of course, assist me during labor. She said she tries to spend a day or two postpartum also making sure I'm doing well and have everything I need.
Going into the pregnancy I had some reservations about the ability of my medical group to give me the support and freedom to give birth naturally in a hospital setting. (Homebirth was briefly discussed but ultimately the fear of something going wrong and the distance to the nearest NICU were obstacles we could not overcome). At one of my appointments I talked to the doctor about having a birth with few (if any) interventions and the possibility of bringing a doula and she was less than enthusiastic. In fact, she seemed completely unsupportive. In addition, there are eight different doctors in the practice who deliver (plus 3 nurse practitioners that you occasionally see for appointments) so there is no opportunity for a personal relationship.
The group I will now be seeing is a smaller practice of four delivering doctors. As a group they are much more respectful of trying to honor a mother's wish of how she wants the labor to go. Angie said she's worked with the group on many occasions and has a good relationship with them. This switch will also mean switching to a different hospital, which I will admit I was a little leary of because it is a much bigger facility. However, I believe they have the maternity ward fairly separated from everything else. I'm hoping that Tim and I will be able to schedule a tour soon.
Obviously I can't read the future and challenges or obstacles may come up that will require me to change my plans for this birth, but I'm optimistic that Tim and I have put ourselves in the best position we can (given the resources and facilities we have available to us) to welcome this baby into our family in a gentle and respectful way.
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Standing Tall and ABCs
UPDATE - Laurel is now saying all 26 letters of the alphabet without skipping any! For awhile she has been saying A-H and N-Z, but today (Dec. 2nd) she has been saying them from A to Z. What a big girl!
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Christmas Photo Outtakes
This is Greta's "mean face."
Greta: "I will break you."
Braden's escaping and Eli's had enough.
This is Laurel's yes-I'm-smiling-but-I'm-not-happy-about-it face.
"I want that ornament, but dang, this chair is comfy."
Apparently Greta is not a fan of Laurel's version of patty cake.
"We're losing interest in this Mom."
Greta's going in for the windup.
Monday, October 31, 2011
Happy Halloween!
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Sittin' and Screamin'
Laurel's language is absolutely exploding. She is finally successfully putting together sentences with more than just nouns! It is awesome to hold long conversations with her with only rarely having to resort to hand gestures and pointing. She is also learning to sing songs.
Both of the girls are at such fun stages and are really interacting with each other. Laurel loves to show off her "baby sisser, Geta May." And Greta thinks Laurel is the most hilarious thing she's ever seen (which may very well be true.)
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Sister vs. Sister, Part Deux
Monday, August 22, 2011
Keep Rollin', Rollin', Rollin'
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Back to the "Real World"
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Getting oh so big!
Monday, May 30, 2011
Adjusting
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Pictures from Greta's Birth Day
Friday, May 13, 2011
Greta's Birth Story
Tim and I stayed up until about 1 a.m. early Wednesday morning watching an incredible thunderstorm spread out around our house. Shortly after I fell asleep, I was woken up with my first contraction at 2 a.m. and it was definitely different than anything I'd felt before. It spread into my back and the tops of my legs and was very low in my belly. I got up and went to the computer to use a contraction counter so that I didn't have to wake Tim up and they were very consistently 45 seconds long and 6 minutes apart. The only thing changing was the intensity. By 3:30 I woke Tim up and told him we might want to get packed and ready to go. I called my doula, Angie, shortly after 4 and she agreed that it sounded like this was for real. We decided it would be best to meet at the hospital.
At 4:30 my water broke and almost instantly the intensity and frequency of the contractions went through the roof. I endured a very difficult 30 minute car ride to the hospital (which I later found out must have been my transition phase.) They were coming every 2 to 3 minutes and I really had to moan to deal with them. Poor Laurel was in the backseat, but she was a real trooper. She kept asking, “Mommy, belly hurt?” My parents met us at the hospital and took Laurel home with them. Angie was also waiting for me and helped me get into triage where the nurse exclaimed "I can't find a cervix. Get the doctor here immediately!" I was completely dilated and starting to feel the urge to push.
They rushed me into a room and called in a resident physician from another group who was there for another labor. She and Angie (who is also a certified midwife) were getting a game plan together to deliver me while I stood up beside the bed. (I refused to lie down in the bed because it was just too painful to move anywhere.) I leaned over the bed and tried a few pushing contractions standing up but I could never really find a comfortable place or a way to relax between pushes. At that point I decided the bed looked a whole lot better and I sat down. Luckily our regular OB arrived just in time and jumped into the action.
Tim had gowned and gloved up and the OB was teaching him how to catch the baby! At this point I was scared out of my mind to push for fear of the pain. Angie stood beside my head the whole time and talked to me about why I did, in fact, have to push and push past the point where my mind told my body to quit. I "sat out" several contractions while I worked up the courage to do it and then she said the magical words, "Your baby really needs you to push.” I had heard them mention that there was “light meconium” showing up in my fluid and that the baby’s heart rate was starting to show a little distress so I closed my eyes, drew in my legs to my chest and pushed as hard as I could. Feeling her head move down and then crown was the most intense/painful/incredible feeling. With one more push her head was out I felt relief. The next push to get her shoulders out was just as intense but the fear was gone because I knew I had already done it once.
Tim caught her and put her on my chest. No one had told us that our baby was a girl (and Tim didn’t even think to look) so immediately I moved the cord to see her. I got the privilege of telling everyone that we had a little girl! It was awesome.
I had a 2nd degree tear that went into the muscle so the repair work was fairly uncomfortable but I was finally holding my little girl so it was all alright. The hospital staff was awesome and I held her on my chest for about 2 hours. They did her Apgar checks, her Vitamin K shot and her eye ointment all while I held her and let her start nursing. There was no pressure to bath her or measure her and they just told me to let them know when I wanted to get those things done.
Greta May was born at 6:20 a.m. on Wednesday, May 11, 2011. She weighed 8 pounds and measured 19.5 inches.
From our frantic 5 a.m. arrival until our discharge, we were only in the hospital for 32 hours. Now we are back home and enjoying seeing our two girls get acquainted.


Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Greta Has Arrived!
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Nope, no baby yet
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Any Time Now!
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Stay in there, stay in there, stay in there...
Well, it seems like I've got another impatient little one on my hands. Angie palpated my abdomen and commented that it seemed like baby was in a ROA position, which means baby is head down with his back on my right side. She said that is typically a position which will translate into a fast and problem-free labor. She then checked the position of baby's head in my pelvis and was a little surprised at how low it already was. With the cervical exam she walked Tim and I through each step to explain exactly what she was looking for and feeling of.
Obviously with Laurel I had some internal exams but I never really knew what they were doing and how they were coming up with X number of centimeters. Angie explained that she first checks the feel of the cervix to see if it is hard or soft to see how much effacement has taken place. The cervix has to be completely soft and pliable before significant dilation can occur. She said my cervix was very "mushy." (I believe that's a technical term.) She then felt to see if actual dilation had started. Sure enough, I'm already at 2 centimeters. She said I wasn't dilated all the way through my cervix but that she didn't want to push too much and risk causing more dilation at this early stage.
After gathering all that information she suggested I continue to take things easy and stay very hydrated. She said my body was definitely in a position where labor could begin at any time and progress fairly quickly. My goal right now is to make until April 23rd. That will put me at 37 weeks and in a much safer place to ensure baby is ready to be out in the real world. Obviously I'd love to make it until May, but I'm not sure how realistic that is at this point.
So everyone say it with me, "Stay in there, stay in there, stay in there..."
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Not Ready Yet
However, night before last I was woken up by pretty strong contractions several different times. They were very irregular so I tried not to worry too much. I got up, ate some cereal and read a book for a little while. They calmed down and I went back to bed. Within an hour and a half I was woken up again and this time the contractions were starting low and making their way up to the top of my uterus. They were accompanied by a menstrual-type cramping low in my abdomen. Needless to say this really freaked me out. I watched the clock and tried to time them but they were very irregular and thankfully fizzled out within about 45 minutes.
Last night I slept well and didn't experience any contractions so I'm hoping it was a one-time thing and won't be happening again for at least two more weeks. But to be on the safe side, I'm going to have my doula check to see if I've had an cervical change when I meet with her tomorrow night. That way I can know if these contractions are actually doing anything or just annoying me.
Laurel was born at 37 weeks and while she was completely healthy, I was really hoping to keep this little one in just a bit longer, and I really don't want to have a 35 or 36 weeker. Tim has stepped up with house work and is trying to let me relax in the evenings so we can keep these contractions under control. I'm hoping that will delay things for at least a little while.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Photos!
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Lazy Baby
For the past week poor Laurel has had a terrible cold. Well, I guess she's learned a little too much about sharing in Sunday School because she immediately gave it to her father and me. Right about the time I got sick I noticed that the baby stopped moving quite as often or as forcefully. The first day/night of the change I just attributed it to a fluke. Also, I know baby is getting a lot more cramped and doesn't have the room to jump and kick like before. But then after another day and a half of significantly decreased movement I started to get a little concerned. I had drank coffee and got no real reaction, had a banana and nothing, etc. so I called the doctor's office. They told me to come on in.
When I got there they hooked me up to a fetal monitor and did a nonstress test where they monitored the baby's heartbeat for about 20 minutes and had me hit a button every time baby moved. It took forever for the nurse to get a good reading on the heartbeat because he seemed determined to move every time she got the detector in place. After about 10-15 minutes of wrestling (and pulling the belt so tight around my waist I was afraid I would bruise) we finally heard a constant heartbeat. Well, of course, baby finally decided to wake up a little and he started moving around a lot. The heart rate fluctuated between the 120s and 160. The doctor said the monitor usually gets babies good and upset so they'll move and kick a lot. She said the movements and heart rate were perfect, but to feel free to come in if I get worried again. I'm just so relieved that everything seems to be fine.
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Going well
Baby is doing well also. I had my 32 week checkup yesterday and baby's heart rate was 130. Both me and the doctor are both guessing it's a boy since the heart rate has consistently been pretty low. I'm feeling really well now that my back and hip aren't bothering me anymore; however, sleep is becoming harder and harder to come by. After lying on one side for about an hour I get sore and wake up and have to roll over. I've also had a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions this pregnancy whereas I never had a single one with Laurel. They aren't painful, but they do make me worry. The doctor said everything was okay as long as I can make them go away by lying down and drinking some water, but if I had more than 4 in an hour and they weren't going away to come over and let them check me.
It's strange, but as time gets closer I feel more calm about delivery rather than nervous. I'm not sure why since I was originally pretty terrified of a natural birth, but I really feel like I'll be in the best hands possible with the support of Tim and my doula, Angie. Also, I've met all four doctors at my new OB-GYN group and I feel really comfortable with all four of them. In fact, when they've looked at my chart, all of them have commented on how wonderful Angie is and how great she is to work with. That gives me a lot of confidence!
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Monday, February 28, 2011
Potty Time
Friday, February 11, 2011
Cloth diapering for newborns??
Right now I'm leaning toward using disposables with the new baby until about three months of age simply because I'm unsure if the cost of purchasing a whole set of tiny, newborn cloth diapers will be worth it (and because there is a LOT of newborn poop.) I'll keep you updated on our decision!
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
That Was So Fun!
"Mommy, 'side me!" = Mommy, sit beside me
"Shebby, mere!" = Shelby, come here (Shelby's our cat)
"Daddy, say 'gin!" = Daddy, say it again
"Nanny, with us?" = Is Nanny coming with us?
"Chuch fend peas." = Can I see my church friends please?
"Stop it Shebby!" = Stop it Shelby (this was her first three word sentence, probably because we say it so much)
Right now she is picking up new words like crazy and her favorite thing to do at night when we're going to sleep is to play the "door game." What I do is say household words and she repeats them. I call it the door game because the easiest way for me to think of words is to mentally walk through my house and name everything I see. She repeats every word, some clearly...and some not so much. (I doubt anyone would recognize "ayter" as refrigerator.)
Another trick she's learned is to count to nine! It's really hard to get her to do it, well, to be honest, you can't get her to do it, but she knows how. Tim and I have heard her and my mom has heard her do it.
Also, we've got magnetic alphabetic letters and it amazes me how often she can pick up a letter and accurately identify it. No one has ever actively tried to teach her either the ABCs or to count, but she's picked them both up on her own.
It's so fun to watch your baby learn and grow!
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Big Birthday Celebration
Here's Laurel and her cousin, Eli, opening presents.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Doula on board and more changes
My first thought was to hire a doula. A doula is a woman who serves as a childbirth assistant to the mother (and the father) and offers support during labor, as well as education before and after the birth. I consulted a few different resources in my area to come up with a group of names. I kept hearing one name over and over...Angie. So Tim and I scheduled an appointment to meet with Angie and to see if she might be the doula we were looking for. One thing I specifically like about her is that she is a Certified Midwife, so in addition to her skills as a doula she has delivered many homebirth babies. I have to say, I immediately liked her and felt like this was exactly the woman I needed. She was friendly and upbeat and seemed to understand everything both I and Tim were telling her regarding what we wanted, what our fears were and why we were looking for a doula. I think she especially reassured Tim that things would be fine and that most emergencies she had personally witnessed were actually during medicated births, not otherwise.
On the way home I laughingly told Tim that I would have hired her on the spot, but I knew I needed to sleep on it and give Tim some more time to digest it all. This morning he woke up and told me, "I'm on board, call her and hire her today." Included in her services are chilbirth education classes (she'll be working one-on-one with us to focus on preparing for and coping with labor and delivery since we feel pretty confident about caring for a newborn and breastfeeding). She'll also attend a couple prenatal appointments with me and, of course, assist me during labor. She said she tries to spend a day or two postpartum also making sure I'm doing well and have everything I need.
Going into the pregnancy I had some reservations about the ability of my medical group to give me the support and freedom to give birth naturally in a hospital setting. (Homebirth was briefly discussed but ultimately the fear of something going wrong and the distance to the nearest NICU were obstacles we could not overcome). At one of my appointments I talked to the doctor about having a birth with few (if any) interventions and the possibility of bringing a doula and she was less than enthusiastic. In fact, she seemed completely unsupportive. In addition, there are eight different doctors in the practice who deliver (plus 3 nurse practitioners that you occasionally see for appointments) so there is no opportunity for a personal relationship.
The group I will now be seeing is a smaller practice of four delivering doctors. As a group they are much more respectful of trying to honor a mother's wish of how she wants the labor to go. Angie said she's worked with the group on many occasions and has a good relationship with them. This switch will also mean switching to a different hospital, which I will admit I was a little leary of because it is a much bigger facility. However, I believe they have the maternity ward fairly separated from everything else. I'm hoping that Tim and I will be able to schedule a tour soon.
Obviously I can't read the future and challenges or obstacles may come up that will require me to change my plans for this birth, but I'm optimistic that Tim and I have put ourselves in the best position we can (given the resources and facilities we have available to us) to welcome this baby into our family in a gentle and respectful way.