Potty Time

Disclaimer: To me, potty training (or learning) is a very child-specific venture so this post is just to explain what we've done and how it has worked, not to suggest that this is the best way to teach every child to use the potty.

When Laurel was about 18 months old she started expressing an interest in the potty. She would come to the bathroom every time Tim, her nanny or I went and she would tell us when she wet or dirtied her diaper. I knew that potty-interest is pretty normal for that age, but I still wondered if we could take advantage of it to start introducing how to use the potty.

It was suggested to me that I try reading the book Diaper Free Before 3 to get some ideas about what to do. The author was a big advocate of very early introduction and gradual teaching of potty skills (starting before a year old). She advised buying small potties and putting them in your bathrooms and initially just sitting the child on the potty once or twice a day. During that time we would read/sing/play with her and keep everything very low pressure (no bribing or scolding or over-the-top praising.)

Once she went a few times while on the potty, we started sitting her on it more and more. Most of the time she really enjoyed sitting there (even if she didn't use the potty) but occasionally it would backfire and she would refuse. At those times we just backed off and tried again later.

By the time she was about 20 months old we started letting her wear training pants/underwear around our house and her grandparents' houses. She had a lot of accidents at first, but the feeling of wetness in her underwear and having to change clothes was a much bigger chore now than it had been before with diapers. (We've used cloth diapers since she was three months old and I do feel that those may have contributed to her early association of going pee-pee equals being wet because there is a little more wetness against the skin with cloth versus disposable.)

We still used diapers for car trips or any outings away from our home or her grandparents' homes and during nap/night time (we still use diapers for sleeping). After she turned two I started thinking more about the book and how the author talked about completely taking away diapers once the child really seemed to know what was going on and could communicate their potty needs. It was a very scary thought, but Laurel was smart enough to know she was getting a diaper to go bye-bye and lots of times she would wait until the diaper was on to go to the bathroom.

Last Friday (Feb. 18) we stopped using diapers completely except for sleeping. And you know what, it's working! Yes, she has an accident once every 2-3 days, but she is going to the bathroom on the potty now not only at home but at restaurants, stores, church, etc. (We use a potty ring on top of a big toilet for public bathrooms.) She is articulating to us when she needs to go without us constantly asking. In fact, her telling us when she needs to go works a lot better because when we try to make her go there's often a power struggles that results with her intentionally holding it and then having an accident once we leave the bathroom.

Since we took away the diapers (and yes, she had plenty of warning) we continually reinforce that she'll need to at least try to go every time we leave the house and before taking a nap or going to bed at night. In lots of different ways, Laurel responds very well to being forewarned of our expectations and as long as she knows what to expect, she rarely argues or resists. This has been the key with getting her to go to the bathroom away from home and when we are leaving our house.

I am not naive enough to believe that she is fully potty trained or that we won't have accidents and possibly regressions, especially with the baby on the way. However, I think all this work on the front end will ultimately result in her complete independence from diapers at a much earlier age than if we just left it all up to her.

Cloth diapering for newborns??

As most of you know, we've been using cloth diapers on Laurel since she was about 3 months old and absolutely love them. They have been a huge money saver in the long run and almost all of our diapers are still in great condition to pass on to #2. We started using cloth by doing Jillian's Drawers Trial. They have a great return policy (http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/customerservice/returnsandcancellations) which allows you to return any stain-free diaper within 30 days for full store credit! That makes trying out a new diaper pretty risk free!

Right now I'm leaning toward using disposables with the new baby until about three months of age simply because I'm unsure if the cost of purchasing a whole set of tiny, newborn cloth diapers will be worth it (and because there is a LOT of newborn poop.) I'll keep you updated on our decision!

That Was So Fun!

"That was so fun" was what Laurel told us tonight at dinner right after she sneezed. This is her first "real sentence." As soon as she said it I asked Tim, "Did she just say 'that was so fun'?" He laughed and said he was pretty sure that's what she said. Lately she's been putting lots of words together. For example:

"Mommy, 'side me!" = Mommy, sit beside me
"Shebby, mere!" = Shelby, come here (Shelby's our cat)
"Daddy, say 'gin!" = Daddy, say it again
"Nanny, with us?" = Is Nanny coming with us?
"Chuch fend peas." = Can I see my church friends please?
"Stop it Shebby!" = Stop it Shelby (this was her first three word sentence, probably because we say it so much)

Right now she is picking up new words like crazy and her favorite thing to do at night when we're going to sleep is to play the "door game." What I do is say household words and she repeats them. I call it the door game because the easiest way for me to think of words is to mentally walk through my house and name everything I see. She repeats every word, some clearly...and some not so much. (I doubt anyone would recognize "ayter" as refrigerator.)

Another trick she's learned is to count to nine! It's really hard to get her to do it, well, to be honest, you can't get her to do it, but she knows how. Tim and I have heard her and my mom has heard her do it.

Also, we've got magnetic alphabetic letters and it amazes me how often she can pick up a letter and accurately identify it. No one has ever actively tried to teach her either the ABCs or to count, but she's picked them both up on her own.

It's so fun to watch your baby learn and grow!

Monday, February 28, 2011

Potty Time

Disclaimer: To me, potty training (or learning) is a very child-specific venture so this post is just to explain what we've done and how it has worked, not to suggest that this is the best way to teach every child to use the potty.

When Laurel was about 18 months old she started expressing an interest in the potty. She would come to the bathroom every time Tim, her nanny or I went and she would tell us when she wet or dirtied her diaper. I knew that potty-interest is pretty normal for that age, but I still wondered if we could take advantage of it to start introducing how to use the potty.

It was suggested to me that I try reading the book Diaper Free Before 3 to get some ideas about what to do. The author was a big advocate of very early introduction and gradual teaching of potty skills (starting before a year old). She advised buying small potties and putting them in your bathrooms and initially just sitting the child on the potty once or twice a day. During that time we would read/sing/play with her and keep everything very low pressure (no bribing or scolding or over-the-top praising.)

Once she went a few times while on the potty, we started sitting her on it more and more. Most of the time she really enjoyed sitting there (even if she didn't use the potty) but occasionally it would backfire and she would refuse. At those times we just backed off and tried again later.

By the time she was about 20 months old we started letting her wear training pants/underwear around our house and her grandparents' houses. She had a lot of accidents at first, but the feeling of wetness in her underwear and having to change clothes was a much bigger chore now than it had been before with diapers. (We've used cloth diapers since she was three months old and I do feel that those may have contributed to her early association of going pee-pee equals being wet because there is a little more wetness against the skin with cloth versus disposable.)

We still used diapers for car trips or any outings away from our home or her grandparents' homes and during nap/night time (we still use diapers for sleeping). After she turned two I started thinking more about the book and how the author talked about completely taking away diapers once the child really seemed to know what was going on and could communicate their potty needs. It was a very scary thought, but Laurel was smart enough to know she was getting a diaper to go bye-bye and lots of times she would wait until the diaper was on to go to the bathroom.

Last Friday (Feb. 18) we stopped using diapers completely except for sleeping. And you know what, it's working! Yes, she has an accident once every 2-3 days, but she is going to the bathroom on the potty now not only at home but at restaurants, stores, church, etc. (We use a potty ring on top of a big toilet for public bathrooms.) She is articulating to us when she needs to go without us constantly asking. In fact, her telling us when she needs to go works a lot better because when we try to make her go there's often a power struggles that results with her intentionally holding it and then having an accident once we leave the bathroom.

Since we took away the diapers (and yes, she had plenty of warning) we continually reinforce that she'll need to at least try to go every time we leave the house and before taking a nap or going to bed at night. In lots of different ways, Laurel responds very well to being forewarned of our expectations and as long as she knows what to expect, she rarely argues or resists. This has been the key with getting her to go to the bathroom away from home and when we are leaving our house.

I am not naive enough to believe that she is fully potty trained or that we won't have accidents and possibly regressions, especially with the baby on the way. However, I think all this work on the front end will ultimately result in her complete independence from diapers at a much earlier age than if we just left it all up to her.

Friday, February 11, 2011

Cloth diapering for newborns??

As most of you know, we've been using cloth diapers on Laurel since she was about 3 months old and absolutely love them. They have been a huge money saver in the long run and almost all of our diapers are still in great condition to pass on to #2. We started using cloth by doing Jillian's Drawers Trial. They have a great return policy (http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/customerservice/returnsandcancellations) which allows you to return any stain-free diaper within 30 days for full store credit! That makes trying out a new diaper pretty risk free!

Right now I'm leaning toward using disposables with the new baby until about three months of age simply because I'm unsure if the cost of purchasing a whole set of tiny, newborn cloth diapers will be worth it (and because there is a LOT of newborn poop.) I'll keep you updated on our decision!

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

That Was So Fun!

"That was so fun" was what Laurel told us tonight at dinner right after she sneezed. This is her first "real sentence." As soon as she said it I asked Tim, "Did she just say 'that was so fun'?" He laughed and said he was pretty sure that's what she said. Lately she's been putting lots of words together. For example:

"Mommy, 'side me!" = Mommy, sit beside me
"Shebby, mere!" = Shelby, come here (Shelby's our cat)
"Daddy, say 'gin!" = Daddy, say it again
"Nanny, with us?" = Is Nanny coming with us?
"Chuch fend peas." = Can I see my church friends please?
"Stop it Shebby!" = Stop it Shelby (this was her first three word sentence, probably because we say it so much)

Right now she is picking up new words like crazy and her favorite thing to do at night when we're going to sleep is to play the "door game." What I do is say household words and she repeats them. I call it the door game because the easiest way for me to think of words is to mentally walk through my house and name everything I see. She repeats every word, some clearly...and some not so much. (I doubt anyone would recognize "ayter" as refrigerator.)

Another trick she's learned is to count to nine! It's really hard to get her to do it, well, to be honest, you can't get her to do it, but she knows how. Tim and I have heard her and my mom has heard her do it.

Also, we've got magnetic alphabetic letters and it amazes me how often she can pick up a letter and accurately identify it. No one has ever actively tried to teach her either the ABCs or to count, but she's picked them both up on her own.

It's so fun to watch your baby learn and grow!
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